The media says the economy is getting better. Some of us have yet to see it trickle down our way. We’re all working hard at keeping our businesses in the public eye and enticing new clients with brilliant offers.
Times like these it’s hard to see when the cash floodgates will open. It makes you hesitant. You start second guessing yourself. If I spend money on this, I won’t have it for that.
It’s a very damaging mindset to fall into. Bit by bit you start to think you have to hold on to everything you have for as long as you can because you have no idea how you’re going to replenish anything. It’s scary, no doubt about it.
The mindset of “it’s not okay to spend money” takes over, and once it gets ingrained into your being, it’s very difficult to break loose.
It’s not easy going from having a big income to next to nothing. What’s even worse is once you start obsessing over that lack, the more you’ll draw that to you. But I can hear you saying “I can’t help obsessing over it. How am I going to pay my bills? How am I going to keep food on the table and a roof over our heads?”
This is where you need to be smart and you need to get past the paralyzing fear that you won’t have anything. I know how hard this is. Even in the midst of amazing abundance I’ve had the same thoughts. It all goes back to a different time when I suffered through several lay-offs in the same year. I never wanted to go through that kind of lack again.
The problem was, I dwelled on that thought so much I ended up bringing it around again. Now every time I have built up a good amount of abundance I get into a mode where I’m thinking it could end at any time.
So, how do we battle this lack mindset? Here are a few tips to work with:
- Hindsight is 20/20: Chances are this happened to you once before and now you’re scared. Maybe it happened when you were a child, a parent lost a job and you remember your folks saying how tight everything was. You couldn’t do what all the other kids were doing because your family couldn’t afford it. When you’re a kid, you pick up on the moods around you and all of it gets magnified. Your family may not have been as bad off as you thought, but it still left a mark. Make peace with that, let it go. Realize what’s done is done and it doesn’t necessarily have to happen again.
- Choices: One key factor in going from a lack mindset to one of abundance is learning how to keep the flow going. If you hold on tight to every single last dollar, you’re blocking the flow. This isn’t to say go out and spend or give away everything you’ve got willy-nilly. That’s no good either. Words and intentions block the flow as much as action (or lack of) does. Instead of saying “I can’t afford to (fill in blank)” or “I don’t have the money.” or “I’m broke”, say instead “I have the money and I choose to spend it on the cable bill instead of a night at the movies.” Choose your words and actions wisely and make them as positive as you can.
- Keep the Moths Out Of Your Wallet: There’s nothing sadder than knowing your wallet is empty. I’ve noticed this since I started carrying cash again. I find that each time I look in my wallet and see a few dollars sitting there, I feel a little better. I think, “Oh look, I’m not broke!” The more you say that, the more you’ll believe it and you’ll keep taking action to keep the abundance coming in.
I know it’s not easy to change your mindset. It takes time, patience and constant vigilance over everything you say or do. There will be times when you’ll think it’s total crap and want to give up. Don’t.
Trust me, once the abundance starts to flow in again, all that hard work will be more than worth it.